Saturday, September 20, 2008

19-sep-08 part 2

Later
Oh my. We had a pre-pre-test of our research questions today with two groups of local children. Upon meeting them, J freaked out. “They have nothing,” he said. He convinced [the group] to give them 2,000 shillings each (1.50 USD) as an allowance. Of course, [the group] hadn’t planned for this, but they were sort of bullied into it. Anyway, the children were told about the money before everyone was consulted, and so A had to pulled me aside and borrow money, because there wasn’t enough in petty-cash. Do the children now think we called them to come, not so that we could listen to their ideas, opinions, and experiences, but because we felt sorry for them and wanted to give them $1.50? What happens the next time these kids come to the NGO for counseling, or games, or another research team – and there’s no money?

When I first moved to Senegal, I would carry candies around to give to the child-beggars on the street. But I don’t do that anymore. I don’t want to add anymore to any power imbalance. Now I shake the hand of any child who comes up to me, and if s/he seems to need more attention I’ll give her a kiss on her hand or her head. I’ll practice my Acholi and let her practice her English. I’ll wipe her nose if it’s snotty. If I’m walking down the street and a child says “Buy me a candy!” I’ll stop and say, “No, no, you buy me a candy!” and then we’ll laugh, and shake hands, and move on. This is why, this is what I think: Laughter’s better than candy. I try to stop and talk to any child who stops to talk to me. Because I want children to think that they are worth talking to and listening to. So they grow up confident and strong. I don’t want to toss a few coins at them (degrading, dehumanizing) and pretend that that’s enough.

On Monday afternoon we’re going to an IDP camp.

2 comments:

Stasia said...

You have a beautiful way with children Rachel, and you are absolutely right - a smile and a kiss is worth so much more than a few candies. Especially from you! Your eyes shine. Your smile dazzles. You are so filled with love and sweetness - any child will remember their interaction with you for a long long time. It will value them. It will make them feel beautiful. I'm sure you'll do great "work" in Uganda, but your greatest gift will be the loving kindness you spread throughout the communities you work with. Bravo. Love, Stasia

Ray-Ray said...

STASIA!!!!! Aw!!! Thank you SO MUCH!!!! Your comments makes me feel so happy and warm and brave! Love and kisses to R... xoxo